While re-reading the January 1969 Femme Forum - I stopped again at Ann Mailo's question: "How do you tell if a young boy is an eonist or heterosexual TV?" It seems to me that if it were not for the present social condemnation of femininity in a boy, it would not be a difficult question to answer. The trouble is that any youngster who feels inclined to express femininity very soon discovers that he must hide such inclinations since he will not find a friendly reaction at home or among his friends. If an enlightened mother and father should catch a hint of femininity. in their boy...let's say: a fascination for his sister's jewelry, or make-up...that's the moment to talk kindly about the subject of transvestism in the boys presence. The enlightened parents I'm talking about (me, dreamer!) would actually state in the boy's presence that they would be delighted to find out that he (the boy) was interested in feminine things, that such inclinations. were nothing to be ashamed of...that it would be nice to see a part-time daughter helping mother around the house...So at that early age our budding TV would associate dressing up with "living" the part of a girl and would not turn out to be a "whole-girl fetichist-WGF". These enlightened parents would guide the boy along two simultaneous paths. And a few years later you would have a true "heterosexual TV". I have no scientific data to prove what I have just said. It's a matter of personal conviction that if a budding TV should find complete acceptance at home it would be very easy for him to develop both aspects of his personality without the frustrations and guilt that may lead a TV into homosexual experiences, bondage and what-not. So the key to the question proposed by Ann should be found at home. What is needed, in other words - is more parent's education. If my parents had been properly briefed on TVism, it would have been very simple for them to stop 'my TV tendencies. They actually spotted them but they didn't know what they were. What's the matter with this kid-my father would say he spends so much time in front of the mirror fooling around with his hair. Or he would notice I liked to play "house" with some of the little girls in the neighborhood-and his reaction would be: "God help you if it turns out that I have an effeminate son!" The nicest thing he ever said to me (not meaning to be nice) was: "You should be wearing skirts in this house." His thunder was my dream. And he never knew it. And this is why I do not hesitate to talk about transvestism in homes where there are children. I hope a little bit of what I say may rub off on the parents and thus help make a happy childhood

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